“I hate my job, I don’t feel good, I’m always broke, I don’t like the way he/she treats me, my house is a mess, I wish I did this, I wish I did that”…and so on. Why do we choose to deal with things that we have the power to change?
Back in the day I had this rusty old Huffy bike that I absolutely adored. It was bubble gum pink and had shredded plastic strands dangling from the handlebars. I was about 7 years old and had just moved from Philly to Goldsboro, North Carolina with my grandmother, Maggie…better known as “mom”. I was in my glory because unlike the city there was plenty of space for a venturous kid like me to coast with my rickety old bike. I would imagine my pink bike was a car as I bumped up and down the dirt roads. I’d be checking my imaginary rear view mirror and honking my imaginary horn…I was in a world of my own. Everything about that bike was perfect to me except the fact that the back wheel had this annoying squeal that seemed to get louder and louder the faster I pedaled. I knew it was a problem but it wasn’t big enough to stop my fun.
All summer long I rode my rusty bike and dealt with that God awful noise; although I was only 7, I knew that my imaginary car needed a tune up. The noise started to get on my nerves and I knew I should have said something to mom because she would know what to do…but for some reason I never did. That was over 30 years ago and good ole Huffy is long gone…but still to this day, I still don’t know why I just didn’t speak up and handle that squeaky wheel.
Its been years since I’ve ridden a bike but trust me, I’ve dealt with many, many squeaky wheels in my day. Most of us don’t realize that the obstacles that stand between us and our happy place are the ones that we created and have the power to destroy. People would rather sit back and complain about a problem than step up and fix one. Don’t get me wrong…Olivia Pope “handles” problems but there’s always loads of drama that come along with that process.
Obviously, problems are going to rise that will be completely out of our control and we wont know what to do. In those instances, we need faith, patience and prayer for guidance. However, for those day to day, less than urgent problems that we like to complain about 24/7…handle it!
You say you hate your job? Try to remember that at one point, you liked it enough to impress the employer and you gladly accepted their offer. Same way in…same way out. Things probably happened that changed your feelings about the situation and that’s cool but instead of fantasizing about punching your co-worker in the throat, use that energy to conjure up an exit plan. Changing jobs isn’t easy but when you are truly ready, you will put forth those same efforts that got you your current job to transition into a new.
You don’t like the way someone is treating you? Try to remember that you are the director of the “who ever you are” show and that no one can be a character in your story unless you give them a part. Same way in…same way out. At some point you liked them enough to give them a role on your show; unhappy with their performance? Kick em off the set. Wait, wait, wait…don’t go unfollowing or deleting folks! You’ve got work to do. It’s now or never…until you figure out how to handle people you are going to keep running into the same issues everywhere you go. You need to understand that the problem isn’t with them….it’s with you. Stand up for yourself. Take charge of your show.
Just like my dear ole bicycle wheel that couldn’t oil itself…your problems wont vanish until you deal with them. Don’t spend another day complaining about something that you have the power to change. Get your Olivia Pope on… put in the work to get that new job, feel good about yourself, manage your money, surround yourself by genuine people who truly love you, clean up your place…live your dreams. Then at the end of the day, you can plop down on your cozy chair, sip on some classy wine and say to yourself “It’s Handled“.
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